Friday, October 08, 2004
i find S'porean society very harsh... cruel... indifferent... quite unasianlike... i mean... we're only "ethical" in the utterly superficial aspects that have no bearings... i believe this country poke fun at more stuff than americans... we seldom reach out to those who're in need... but forever complain about our own needs... and proclaim our deeds to the world... shun people who seem different without understanding...
y?
ok... the topic's abt evolution of friendship... i know.. so wat hav i said have any relations to that?
let me put the 2 together...
such a society such as ours, when considering what's described above, actually has its merits. You grow stronger... you know how not to behave by witnessing such behaviour everyday... you learn how to take scorn and people making fun of you...
but sadly... not everybody can see this... we tend to be more vengeful... hateful... picking lil things mentioned by others as something that is indirectly and... well i guess the perfect word would be euphemistic.. no... a bit wrong... whatever la! u get what i mean... now... where was i? oh yes...
these kinda of things will only make us worse... and make the scenes about us even more bleak and odious... i mean.. it breeds on each other...
i mean... when some people are stressed... they complain... so don't take them seriously and just be their friend and listen... if they say something hurtful... pay no heed...
the ultimate worst case scenario would be when the one listening tells of what he's heard to another(preferably a person mentioned in the complaints) and then the whole just boils over?
Y? cos some dense fellow can't see beyond the situation...
prejudice is also a bad poison that can spread and kill many relationships...
u only choose certain ppl to treat well or listen to... only certain ppl to REALLY listen to...
all others are talkin crap whether or not they make sense...
if it's your girlfriend or some great pal... or your family...
ok la... go ahead n treat them "EXCLUSIVELY". Meaning they are actually "entitled" to such treatment..
(sorry.. i tik i've drifted away from "as a result of societal influences" and jus talked abt "evolution of friendship")
another thing that i believe has evolved in "Friendship"
good friends ... (for lack of a better word) FUCK each other...
not literally...
they scold you and tell each other off because they TRULY care...
of course there are many ways and means to get somebody to wake up...
but seriously... sometimes some ppl hav to wake up their fat and heavy minds...
some ppl say "oh... can't tell him off cos he'll b hurt" or "they at home already get same treatment... scolding all day"
except the 2nd pt(makes more sense)... the 1st is quite bull...
can't we all demonstrate why we're above all creatures and use the biggest tool above our shoulders? if you're MATURE enough, you'd listen to the person's points instead of feeling hurt...
"FUCK YOU all who disagree, understand!"
ok... now i shall surmise your internal mental processes... "Gab's being really self-righteous." "what a braggart" "he thinks he's right all the time." "who does he think he is"
now that's shit...
if i don't make sense or am complaining and thus, do not demonstrate the clarity of mind to write this... mayb... yes i'm under a lot of stress... but i'm not bitching abt ppl... i'm not saying this because i feel hated or hateful.... I TRULY WANT TO HELP PPL SEE THE FUTILITY OF CERTAIN ACTIONS.
DO YOU KNOW WHO YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGIES DIRECTED TO?
THE PEOPLE WHO
MAY TREAT YOU BAD MAY ACTUALLY BE YOUR BEST FRIENDS
THEY MAY NOT BE JUSTIFIED IN TREATING YOU THAT WAY
BUT DO YOU THINK YOUR REACTION IS EITHER?
your seemingly obvious enemy may be your friend and your seemingly obvious friends may be your enemies... twist this phrase over and over again... your mind might be in turbulations... what's the point of giving everybody the wary eye? sometimes what people say behind your back may not be bad... would you rather we say it in front of you? can.... just present yourself to be such a person who can receive criticism then... so here's some simple solutions... be aware... not wary... alert not cautious... and the ultimate solution? DON'T JUDGE!
i might be a hypocrite
but acknowledgement of such a fact is the first step of character cleansing......
sometimes i feel that when we judge someone, what we've actually judged abt that person is actually a certain aspect of that person that we ourselves possess that we're not comfortable of... our flaws...
SORRY! I DIDN'T KNOW THIS WOULD EXPAND TO A TOPIC DEPICTING SOME BASIC PSYCHOLOGY?! =p
i also apologise for my pleonasm... really.. i mean... it is a blog? u can't b bothered with condensing your thoughts? u just let em flow
have you ever noticed something... that the truly ignorant do the same things as the truly enlightened? it's a fine line...
man! am i ignorant!
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